Relationships between homosexuals and straight persons present similar problems found in platonic relationships. Should at some point one develop feelings for the other and wish to pursue something other than friendship, he or she risks rejection and losing the relationship. Heterosexual and homosexual friendship faces this problem too; however, the heterosexual member is more likely to reject all advances than entertain them as if they were in a heterosexual platonic relationship.
The homosexual member of the friendship may be reluctant to talk about anything other than banal chit-chat to avoid upsetting the other -- especially if he or she is unaware of their stance on homosexuality. This constant vigilance and self-consciousness of one's deviant behavior puts an even bigger strain on the homosexual friend if he or she has developed feelings outside of normal friendship. They stand at a crossroads wondering if they should divulge how they really feel or continue to masquerade as casual friends to preserve what they have. Homosexuals risk more than rejection if they decide to reveal their true feelings.
Termination of friendship, loss of contact, and even violence are likely outcomes awaiting their choice. Because of these possible reactions, many make use of gay clubs or areas catering to gay culture, if their area provides them. These establishments offer an environment where they are more likely to find someone to a relationship deeper than they are in the mostly heterosexual world.
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